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Don't Vote for My Pastor

I felt uneasy when I found out that a well known attorney and elder at my church was running for public office. I had met William* a few times and had pleasant conversations with him, but something about a church leader holding public office made me uncomfortable. Will was a believer, a family man, a successful attorney, but still humble and approachable. He gave to the church and he and his wife were ready volunteers for church events and ministries. Confusingly, when I read his website I largely agreed with his views and opinions on the major issues, which made my discomfort hard to pinpoint. By all metrics, this is the type of person I would want to run for office. Where was my reluctance coming from? Separation of Church and state The concept of separating church and state was new for America’s founding fathers. The European governments they came from sourced their authority from the divine. Kings were crowned by bishops and popes to symbolize the true initiator of power. In many k...
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I Need a Cold Shower

To  most people, the thought of taking a cold shower is anything but appealing. The shower or its sister the bath are places of comfort and warmth. True, they serve as a tool to clean oneself and perhaps in years past this trait was the primary focus, but today they are so much more. A place of solitude and free from the distractions of the modern world, the shower is a daily retreat from outside connection. Internet culture has even coined a phrase for the ideas that only come when the sea of chaos quiets in the mind: shower thoughts. As with most of these internet phenomena, reddit has formed an entire community based on the concept . Essential to this view and enjoyment of the shower is comfort. If the shower was not enjoyable, the individual would be incapable of slowing down or sticking around long enough to enter their social retreat. The shower would be fled from instead of fled towards. These benefits set aside, consider for a moment the benefits of a cold shower.  Sel...

On the value of curiosity

The popular Apple TV show, Ted Lasso, took the lighthearted comedy genre by storm in 2020 with its lovable characters and underdog story. After having the show recommended to me so many times, I sat down to watch the first season. While I am perhaps not the biggest fan of the show (its constant building to wholesome moments made the plot feel a bit formulaic for my taste), I did find one scene particularly compelling. While participating in a high stakes darts game with a rival, the main character offers some free life advice that gives the audience a peek into his true thoughtful and insightful nature, an apparent contradiction to his bumbling, “aw shucks”, Texas demeanor. He utters the phrase “be curious, not judgmental ” to highlight why those around him often underestimate his abilities. Lasso misattributes the quote to Walt Wittman , but the true author is not important. Like many big thoughts, this one seemed unremarkable at first listen, but took up residence in my skull for lon...

The Ongoing Effort to Remove Anger from My Life

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.” Ephesians 4:31 My wife and I were in no big hurry during our post-church drive to Costco. The one time of the week when we were not beholden to a tight timeline meant that Sunday afternoon was an ideal choice for grocery shopping. At an intersection near our house a car beside us suddenly discovered a need to be in our lane…in front of me. No sir. Not on my watch. I accelerated and closed the gap in front of our car keeping this line-butting jerk in his lane. In doing so I drove quite close to the car in front of us. In fact, I got close enough for my wife to gasp and speak a sharp “Daniel!!”. “You almost hit that car” she exclaimed. Feeling the need to justify my behavior I explained that I only almost rear-ended this person because the car beside us was trying to cut in front of us. She was less than understanding, and in hindsight, I can’t blame her.  Reflecting back on t...

Sourdough

Since the start of the COVID-19 Pandemic, many people old and young have found themselves with an abundance of undirected free time. Hours normally spent traveling or participating in large group activities were left noticeably empty. Sure, Netflix and social media do their best to fill the vacuum, but many eyes tire of staring at large and small screens after a few hours. The unusual fatigue that comes after about the third or fourth episode pushes many off the couch or out of bed. Many people found new hobbies and interests, but one common activity surprised me: sourdough bread. I am aware that many are asking themselves at this very moment: “how is he going to say anything interesting about baking bread”, and to that I answer: I’m not, at least not interesting to most people. But on the off-chance that someone ever reads this and the even more unlikely event that such a person also bakes bread, they might feel that rare comfort that comes from shared passion.  I stumbled onto so...

What is this all about?

About 5 years ago I met up with a friend for lunch, and as we spoke about college, careers, and futures she posed a question: “What is your big thought?” I wasn't sure what she meant, so she clarified that a big thought is an idea or question that you have been mulling over in your mind. It could be about your job, your education, or your hobbies, but the best big thoughts don't fit into any of these categories; at least they don't fit into any single one of these categories. Big thoughts stem from observations about the world or ideas on how to improve something. They are almost always the result of simple curiosity. I realized at that moment that I didn’t have any big thoughts. I could regurgitate some podcast conversation or news story; I could recall the main points of a book I read; but I had no curiosity driving big thoughts about the world around me. Since that conversation I have become interested in cultivating big thoughts in myself and in people around me. So, I ...